The policies that you are defending where trans men are recognized as women have the corrolary that trans women are to be excluded if our history is known.
A close friend of mine is a trans woman graduate of a women’s college. She wrote a post about her experiences.
The inclusion of trans men is a corrolary of the exclusion of trans women. These policies continue because they allow the school an excuse to exclude trans women while still claiming to be trans friendly, an excuse you are perpetuating. And this is what that policy does to trans women.
You are defending an arrangement where men can access a women’s space (oh, but they might be called women while in it! the horror!), while women face these kinds of barriers to it if we’re even allowed in at all.
Seriously, you owe every single trans woman you’ve called transphobic an apology. And more.