Posts tagged pregnancy
Posts tagged pregnancy
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Did you know that pregnant women have been fired for using the bathroom to vomit, needing to carry a water bottle on the job, or asking to sit on a stool instead of standing in place all day? While employers have to make allowances like these for other types of temporary disabilities, a number of bad court decisions have encouraged them to feel they can get away with firing or mistreating pregnant workers with impunity.
It’s disgraceful and unacceptable that at a time when unnecessary budget cuts are decimating food, medical, and educational supports for low-income families, pregnant women continue to be pushed out of their jobs just as they take on all the expenses of having a new baby.
This is unacceptable. Pregnant workers need more protection. With a child coming up they need employment more than ever. Please contact your rep.
Bei Bei Shuai was released on bail today after more than a year in an Indianapolis jail for being so depressed during pregnancy that she attempted suicide. She survived the suicide attempt but lost her baby — and her ordeal is not over yet.
Even though she was finally released today from jail, she is far from free. Even though she is no longer held in a cell, she must wear a GPS electronic monitor which tracks her location every second of the day, and which she must pay for herself ($12 dollars a day). All of Ms. Shuai’s savings have gone to the enormous cost of her ongoing legal defense, and now, she must literally pay for each day outside a jail-cell.
Ms. Shuai still has to stand trial for attempted feticide and murder of a viable fetus – facing a sentence that could be as long as 45 years. According to the Indiana Court of Appeals women who experience pregnancy losses may be charged with murder, and those who take any intentional act that is perceived as risking pregnancy loss can be charged with attempted feticide and attempted murder.
This is so incredibly wrong….
Please consider donating to the Bei Bei Shuai Legal Defense Fund.
I’ve got my own version of family values—helping people build the families they want to create, however they define family, in the most loving and supportive environment possible. My family values include empowering every family member to make decisions about what’s best for them—whether those decisions are about how to dress, when and how to begin romantic relationships, how to be sexual, what to do when they are pregnant, what pronouns to use, damn even what food to eat every day. Again, I don’t know what’s best for anyone but myself. My values center on creating an environment where everyone can make the absolute best, educated and supported decisions about their lives.
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Top Text: “Teenager Buying Condoms”
Bottom Text: “Make them feel awkward”]
Sometimes you just need a little entertainment during your shift. I like to scan everything slowly and then ask a bunch of questions like, “do you need a bag?” So funny.
[added a TW here for pregnancy, abusive relationships, and rape]
So You’ve Awkwarded Out a Young Sexually Active Person Who Was Trying to Ensure Their Own Sexual Health and That of Their Partner(s) [Alternate Title: “How You May Have Actually Not-Even-Shitting-You Indirectly Helped Kill Someone”]
Why would I do such a thing?
Because you’re an asshole who severely lacks a sense of long-term consequences, cause-and-effect, and/or empathy.
Oh dear! Then tell me, what are some of those consequences?
Well, the best-case bad scenario is that a teenager you’ve awkwarded out is silly enough and desperate enough to get laid that they end up having unprotected sex despite being too overwhelmed by that one fucker behind the register to buy any protection (either because they decided not to, or because they put it off to long and then decided “Oh well!”) and not having any available from their partner, consequently catching an STI with only mildly annoying symptoms that can and does run itself out without medical intervention and doesn’t infect anyone else.
Well that doesn’t sound so bad! Thanks for the reassurance, random bitch!
Oh no, we’re not done here. I did say that was the best-case harmful scenario. Things can get much, much worse.
A lot of fairly common STIs have the potential to cause serious health problems if they go untreated. And since our generic adolescent here is someone shy enough to stop buying condoms or delay the purchase of such because of awkward salespeople, they probably won’t get tested. They probably won’t even think they’ve got something unless the symptoms are very unusual, very obvious, and don’t go away even as the illness persists.
So now you’ve got a horny teen who will have unprotected sex running around with an STI that could quite possibly render its carriers infertile, brain-damaged, or honest-to-god dead because someone was having a slow day at work. FUNNY SHIT!
But wait, there’s more! Someone could get pregnant! I don’t know if you’ve heard, but pregnancy carries all sorts of serious and unpleasantly common health risks (including our old friends infertility and death!) And if your unfortunate customer or whoever they fucked wants an abortion…well, I hope they live somewhere where they can get one safely. And it’s somewhere without such a short time window that they spend too much time worrying over and trying to ignore the pregnancy and end up having to carry it to term. And that they don’t need parental permission before the procedure can be done; that could make them put it off and lead to problems if they live somewhere with aforementioned time window, or they could have parents who’d beat the shit out of them and/or kick them out of the house for having sex.
And I haven’t even gotten into the possibility of your customer being in an abusive relationship! Do this to a painfully shy person who’s going to be forced to have sex whether they have protection or not and, not only have you made the life of someone in a shitty situation even shittier, but it’s even more likely that something awful will happen to them as a result of unprotected sex because whether or not they decide to have sex anyway doesn’t even factor into it.
Tl;dr: You’re potentially causing a lot of awful shit to go down. These situations are very possible. Stop it.
^This. People who do this discourage teenagers from getting condoms, which can lead to all sorts of shitty situations (such as the ones psychetimelapse discusses).
Is it really that hard to inclusive when talking about abortion and pregnancy?
Especially since many women (cis or not) can’t become pregnant. So if we’re talking about a population of people for whom pregnancy is a possibility, “women” is the wrong label—it includes some who can’t become pregnant and excludes others who can.