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The term is used so broadly in contemporary conversation that usage is no longer based primarily on assumptions about specific behaviors of people who have mental retardation – just the general assumption that retardation is bad, something to be avoided, and things, ideas or people described as retarded should be excluded from the attention of non-retarded people. At this point, the connotation is simply “that’s bad and you should ignore it.” (See the Urban Dictionary entry for the term, which describes it as meaning “bad” in literally hundreds of different ways.) And that is ableist – using a word that not only describes but is the actual medical diagnosis of a mental disability to mean “bad and ignorable.” Using the term reinforces the implicit assumption that mental disabilities are bad and that people with mental disabilities should be excluded and ignored because of their disabilities. And that affects all people with mental disabilities, not just those diagnosed with mental retardation or another developmental disability. (Although it is especially difficult for family members of people with developmental disabilities.)

Ableist Word Profile: “retarded” - DisabledFeminists

This is a long and polite way of saying “stop saying it because it’s really fucked up and shitty when you do”.

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[Image 1: A black background with white text “Cards Against Humanity”. Image 2: Five cards, one black with white text, reading “What are my parents hiding from me” and four others (white with black text) reading “Harry Potter erotica” “Peanut Butter Jelly Time” “Italians” and “Grandma”]




holywatered | ohno789:

Cards Against Humanity is a party game for horrible people.

Unlike most of the party games you’ve played before, Cards Against Humanity is as despicable and awkward as you and your friends.

The game is simple. Each round, one player asks a question from a Black Card, and everyone else answers with their funniest White Card.

And it is distributed under a Creative Commons license, meaning it is not only free to play, but remixing, and changing the game are more than just encouraged.

The official hard copy has been sold out for a while now, but a PDF of all the cards, and instructions distributed by the creators for making your own deck can be found here.

You’re welcome, and enjoy!

Sorry to be a party pooper, but I have basically only ever seen these cards used as an opportunity to find out people are incredibly, intensely racist.  Or to make Holocaust jokes.  Cards include “a Gypsy curse”, “the Hardworking Mexican”, “Smallpox Blankets” and “Asians who aren’t good at math”.  And then there’s “date rape” and “Dwarf tossing” as options and… idk if you remove these cards then it could probably be swell?  But my experience was just really upsetting and made me realize some people I knew were enormous assholes.

Oh wow. Thanks for the head’s up and in that case fuck this game.

Good to know. Eww.

I should have suspected when one of the jokes they suggested was “What are my parents hiding from me? Italians” that they were willing to stoop into racism.

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Filed under slurs racism it's cool if you like this game just make sure the people you play it with aren't trying to be 'edgier' than one another?? and also aren't racists wow!

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Open Letter to Slutwalk


Dear Slutwalk and all of it’s supporters,

   Good luck I mean that ,with whatever you intend to do.  However with Shira Tennant now just LYING in print , it is obvious we can not continue to hold a dialogue about this..  It’s not just a disagreement. It’s not minor. It’s resource and class violence that sadly is often the outcome of these “ movements”. Things are being made up , in hopes of “ strengthening your movement” . I am a woman and I am all to familiar with be called a N*gg*r and the only thing I have learned form it is fear.

An apology actually hasn’t been made.  “ We’re sorry that sign made it into union square” isn’t an apology. “  We’re sorry that we created an atmosphere that any one thought that was okay is an apology. It is disheartening and quite honestly disrespectful to pretend you have no idea what critiques you are responding ESPECIALLY on tumblr where they are linked at the bottom of your page. It is not an opportunity to show her it is unacceptable , WHEN YOU WILL NOT SAY THOSE WORDS TO HER. When you allow the behavior that has gone on in your name to continue without public response in the forums it has happened.

At no part of your “ apology” have you stated, that what women have done in your name, the slander and disrespect of black women is wrong. At no point have you intervened to say that whatever we stand for , we also stand for women being allowed to express themselves as individuals, without fear of reprisals not limited to insults, appropriation, and lying. But the women you choose continually to ignore and allow to be disrespected are not part of big name organizations, so it seems by your behavior they are expendable.

I am truly glad for you that it is healing “ work” . I am truly please for you that this is something you can get over. But for me a woman who has BEEN assaulted with that word hung over me, it is not that easy. It is triggering, it is the skin I am in when I am demeaned. It is the word yelled at women in my family, and my ancestry when they are raped , and instead of treating it with that gravity, it is being treated as a PR flub.

For all your talk not once have you acknowledged that the people who have challenged you are feeling real pain. You have yet to extend the solidarity of that respect , allowing comment upon comment and word upon word to cast these women,  which as you should know sadly ARE survivors of the sexual trauma you claim to be against , be portrayed as do nothings, villains,  and whatever spewed forth from the mouths of this group you love so much.

From the inception of Slutwalk women of ALL backgrounds have expressed fear at the high handed , unexamined way this has been conducted, fearing that the work put forth would end up alienating and divisive. We hoped it would be merely structural , instead these women , black women especially were treated over and over again, by that sign, and by the cruel and unkind “discussion” that followed to the visceral nature of those failures.

Now the only thing you have to offer is the hope that we will put ourselves into  hostile unwelcoming situations where we have been guaranteed no comfort, support, or basic respect, to do the work you have so obviously avoided doing and continue to avoid. With no assurance or parity, clarity , or reciprocity. So you may grow and we may hurt for your growth.

As a survivor and speaking with many of the survivors that word has jarred and cut so deeply, we require a movement of vision and love. That moves beyond reactionary measures, and proactively envisions, places of care, support and growth for us ALL. When someone can NOT or WILL NOT extend a very simple apology for that most hurtful of phrases, they assure me that their space is NOT the space , I can see that happening.

Thankfully there is more than one way to work towards reproductive justice and there are many places where many of the voices you still seek to drown out and erase are doing that work. 

May we get to that goal where ALL women feel safe and supported and free in their choices to maintain the safety of their bodies, minds and spirits. You have made it obvious that your space does not and truly does not seek to include me and those like me but I hope it still works for you.

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